“Sometimes I think I have loved you all my life.”
“You haven’t known me all your life.”
“A meaningless technicality.” From “Back Story” by Robert B. Parker
Arrogance. How I hate that word. Wish it would just go away.
If someone helps you……don’t you just naturally appreciate the act?
Is it important to make your appreciation known with a simple “thank you”?
Is it wrong to expect some form of demonstrated appreciation?
Just wondering how people feel about things.
When I have the opportunity to do something for a friend or loved one, I kind of expect a thank you. Nothing elaborate, I just need to know that I am not being taken for granted. It’s important to me. Besides that, it’s just good manners.
I truly believe arrogant people lack manners, compassion, and empathy.
“Boats are safe in the harbor but, that’s not what boats are made for.” – Unknown
Texas Heat 
Ahem,I am waiting!!!
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For what and why?
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made ya blink,made ya think.LOL
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You KNOW I share your sentiments. With me, it is not a matter of expectation if I do a favor or am courteous to someone, but I am not magnanimous enough to not expect someone to meet me half way. I EXPECT “thank you,” and “please.” One thing I have always admired about Southern “ways” has been the “yes, sir” and “yes, ma’am” coming out of the mouths of youngsters. Unfortunately, that seems to be going away in the south and nonexistent, elsewhere. I have been known to utter “YOU’RE WELCOME” loudly when I hold the door for someone and they just walk past without a word. It is just common decency and the lowlifes who can’t show this type of courtesy aren’t worthy of my respect, that is for sure. And, I totally agree with you, that life is too short to waste any energy on arrogant people. Unfortunately, I am related to some.
I will continue to treat people with respect, hold doors, ask them to go in front of me in a line, but I totally subscribe to the precept “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” But, I respect those with a high tolerance for bad human behavior. I have NO respect for door mats.
To me, arrogant people are sad, insecure types who are to be pitied. And, I don’t have to hang with them…..excepts at family reunions. 🙂
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You nailed it Lynn. That’s exactly what I was trying to say and how I wanted to say it.
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Well, I must say I agree with you…but…my husband says that when we do something for someone we should not be doing it for a thank you…he tells me that I just have to love people where they are. I will never be there! I have know this man for 27 years and I can honestly say that I have never heard him say anything unpleasant about another human being…I will never be there!
Love your blog!
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Seems like I’m doing a poor job of making my point. Think of this: we try to teach our children the importance of good manners, or at least we should. If we expect good manners from our children….should we expect no less from adults? Think about it.
Every year we give money to the Salvation Army. We don’t expect a thank you for that. Our thanks is the good feeling we get by freely doing what we can to help others.
But when someone asks me to give them something or to help them in some way, yes, I expect a thank you.
I am comfortable with that attitude and I believe that if more people had it, the gears of social interaction would grind much less. Life would be more pleasant.
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First, I want to THANK YOU for quoting my favorite author! Love RBP…plus, the writers who are carrying on his characters in new books is a bonus. Now, to your question: We all love to say that we do things for others without any strings attached. But, there is that tiny little thread attached mentally, thinner than dental floss, that would really appreciate some sort of acknowledgement. If it doesn’t come after doing a couple of “good deeds” then those people are off my list and have declared themselves as being “self-entitled”. Bottom line…I agree with you:)
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I share your action of crossing the bastards off my list. If you don’t acknowledge my offer in some way I cross you off my list. My life is just too short to waste on arrogant people. Thank God you are who you are. I know you are special.
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